Archives for the month of: June, 2011

“I WANT TO CHANGE!…blah!.. damn it!” …

..”Okay.. but into what?” I asked.

“Fuckin anything other than this crap!”

“… how about into a rhinoceros?”, I responded respectfully but with a glint of humor in my eye.

She instantly could see how silly a comment like that was without specifics. Being exceptionally smart, she stopped her explosive uproar, composed herself, and muddled thru her tears, “touché, ….you douche-bag”. This, right before we both started laughing uncontrollably. Break-Thru!

“Why in the world did you choose a rhinoceros?”, she snorted thru laughter. “You coulda said something like ‘lawyer’ or something, and I would’ve gotten the point.”

“..eh.. ya needed a good laugh.” “Frankly so did I.”, as I giggled.

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Lets take a second to be forth-right in our thinking. Directing the course of one’s life without being specific can just lead you down a path of .. actually, let me back up a moment.

Trajectory is a word rarely used in regards to one’s life and life choices. Knowing where you are going, what to look out for, who’s comin with, why ya doin’, expanding your in-flight knowledge, and how to get there while having fun – that’s the plan ain’t it? And ain’t it always.

So what’s the first step in anything that you need to due correctly? Yep, ya guessed it. Be specific. Draw a map. Why? Cuz navigation and focus is key.

Sure some people may be able to get there on instinct alone, but can you?

I’ve seen people “do” on instinct alone. It takes a long, long time to “do it while having fun”. I’m talking about the merger between the vacation & the vocation.

My friend Marie is a potter. An exceptional one at that. Has a hard time keepign items in her Etsy account cuz of it. I keep telling her to find someone to keep it updated for her cuz she is always busy at the “wheel” makin new stuff all the time. ..No, the quote from before wasn’t Marie. But both have had similar conversations with me about damn near the same reason. Marie gets it. She is smart about it. ..and has faith in her trajectory. Which is why she has success. Sure, even Marie gets challenged, but it’s not by her success. And the woman from before, her struggle is with her day job.

Life without a destination seems to only be for a certain few who can handle it. Generally those who’ve got lots of people’s couches they can crash on. But once they’ve burned thru all the couches at least twice… then what?

..then there is..
Life with a direction.
Life with a reason.
Life, backed by unwavering self-confidence.

Add these three together with a good business model, and you’ve got the start of a great little venture. As Napoleon Hill, Wallace D. Wattles, Dale Carnage, (..the list goes on & on..) have all stated, in all of their literature, for the last hundred years – tested over and over again my millions of people – something around the likes of: You not only ‘can’ get you anywhere you need to go, but I’d say, 90% of the cases in fact “will” get there. No questions asked. Of course these guys all used phrases like “faith”, “burning-desire”, and the likes. But don’t get lost in the semantics: the rule of doing to succeed at just about anything is pretty simple. …But a bit tough to get it all out in one or two sentences.. let alone a paragraph – so bare with me here.

That rule is:

BE SPECIFIC!

Brainstorm. Think gigantic. Nothing is impossible.

Set a/the/your goal. You can do it, I promise you that you can “IF”!… You link your inspired goal to your “higher self“. This will give you all the energy you need in all situations that may seem challenging during the on-set. If ya don’t, you’ll lose steam really fast and it will soon become a “job” and not a profession. This also helps to keep resistance at bay. And without this you are looking at a non integrated vocation/vacation. Chances are you already have that… eeek!

Meditate on your goal everyday for at least 5 minutes in the morning or just before bed (although 20 minutes is best). Keep something in your pocket at all times that can help remind you that your goal is beside you at all time. Make a business card, draw a picture – anything works. Create visual reminders of the goal and surround yourself with these sources of inspiration. Place them all over your home, car, and/or office. Get silly about it. Get real about it. Whatever or however – just do it. We’ve all heard of vision boards. …there’s a reason why they are so talked about it. They work. Consider making one.

Next, Research till you have found a few people who did it first. Consider taking advice only from those people doing so now, or those that have achieved it within the last ten years. Or if time-tested the same achievement strategies could still apply today. [Relationship advice on the other hand, may or may not be the same 100 years ago – You’ll know what’s correct for you by how you feel about it while you are researching it. Listen to what your body is telling you by how you feel.] Apply what you’ve learned from them into an action-plan. Make a chart, future-cast into stages, make a benched-mark progress log, write a letter to yourself, …whatever it takes for you to see a map or plan of action, this will keep you on point. What You Track Will Pay You Back. ..You’ll never see a wealthy person with an unkept bank account. Even if your goal is to get laid at the club tonight, get crystal clear by creating action steps. Test your actions steps beginning to see yourself having, doing, acting, smelling, looking, thinking, feeling, (take a breath) and being who you are once that “goal” is reach/obtained/achieved. THINK LIKE AN ATHLETE!! Visualize yourself accomplishing it. Practice by pretending at home. Act like a kid, pretend you are already there. Start to dress like the person you are going to be now with what you have now. Improvise. You did it when you were a kid. You can do it now. If ya gotta do it in secret, do it in secret.

Now, it’s all about persistence and recalibrating the plan. Be stead-fast with persistence, even in the face of scrutiny and opposition(especially then). Take not the advice of those who’ve given up and are “worried for you”. Or even those who are concerned with you “failing” – these people will not have your best interests in mind. And besides failing is bullshit. It doesn’t even exist to begin with. Failing just means you stopped. And guess what? You can start again at any time. Ignore the naysayers like the plague. Even if they are family, best friends, or people who pretend to be your competitors. Keep your two eyes on the prize at all times. Competition is a lie, and ignore all those scarcity arguments. They are the inventions of the fearful.

As it’s been stated, Roadblocks are what you see when you take your eyes off the prize – take this to heart and store it there. This has been said in a ton of different ways by a lot of successful people. Take that little sentence and memorize it. Teach it to your friends. Have them dish it out right back at you when you get discouraged. As long as your goal is aligned with your heart you should have zero reason enough to keep you doing those little things that seem annoying, but are integral to getting you to where you are headed. I.E. – having to retailer your plan. And if you can find someone to hold you accountable to your goal – you’ll be unstoppable, revised plan or not.

Which leads to: finding like minded people. There are a million ways to do this. Do a Google search. Get on Facebook. Craigslist. Go the coffeehouse down the road and put up a flyer looking for these people. Grab a flyer that seems like you. Pick up a paper, hit the want ads, the seeking people section. Heck, try writing to the editor asking them to write an article about it. See who, what pops up.

Trust the world around you, For You Are Not Alone Ever. And there are plenty of people looking for you as well. Be diligent. If you there, They are there too.

Once you have an accountability support structure in place; be that a business partner, lover, friend, or a coach, knowing your goal; acting as if; doing as if; thinking as if.. now its time for the tough part. Nope, it’s not the achievement. I know movies and TV love to make this the point of all their stories, but I can assure you it certainly is not. The tough part is what seems like the easy part, but is actually the hard part. MAINTENANCE.

And with that.. Let’s talk a little about Maintaing the dream…
PT. 2 Coming Soon.

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

Being cranky sucks. No doubt.
Often I act the crankiest when life feels unfullfilling – more like unfulfillable. Not claiming I’m superman or anything. Everyone gets the blues sometimes.

Yes, I too get annoyed, frustrated, ticked off, peeved, stressed, enter the pain body like it’s a scene from Hellraiser, …throw in some old school blackmetal.. and well… we all have our drill. And sometimes it pulls out a crooked hammer, and undoubtedlyallow ourselves to clobber ourselves. Often into self-pity, or melancholy.

So why does this happen?
Easy.

Usually, its nutrition. Often it is something leaving our system like the coffee we just drank. Or maybe just a thought that swung into our heads which got us thinking about crap we don’t wanna deal with in a week. Buddhists call this Shenpa. Aka – roughly translated getting hooked. Sometimes the body gets hooked to getting hooked. Who knew..

Frustrating as it is, “getting hooked to getting hooked” is our body’s way of trying to tell us something. Usually something important. Kinda like seeking the silver lining in a cloud, if we can be mindful, even for a few seconds, our present awareness tends to shed some light on this shadowy / prickly little bugger. And away it starts-a-runnin’.

So what can ya do about it? I mean, being that people get cranky for a bazillion reasons, right?

First thing is that I’d advise clients to look into two authors: Eckart Tolle (…don’t scoff.. he’s popular for a good reason), and Pema Chödrön. Both of these authors have done a superb job on sending light on – & into – these subjects. They both have effective tips, and numerous strategies that I’ve used with many clients, and even on myself.

The second thing I would do is a breathing exercise I picked up in yoga. This is possibly the simplest thing you can do when you get stressed or annoyed, even angry. And lucky for you, ya really don’t have to “know” how or why it works. But if you try it even once, even in a half-assed way, you’ll soon see that it does work. And work quite well.

1) While using your right thumb to close the right nostril, take an 8 second slow breath-in thru your left nostril.

2) Then plug both nostrils and hold it for another 8 seconds.

3) While doing so place your focus/awareness on what people call the third-eye / Ajna Chakra – basically the place just above the center between your two eyes.

4) Then finally with your ring finger hold closed the left nostril and breath-out the oxygen / prana out of your right nostril.

Then just take a second to see how you feel.
Are the prickly’s still there? Do you still feel like destroying the new pretension-laden interim director who acts like a six grade lit teacher? Hopefully not as bad as before you tried this breathing exercise.

..as a caveat to neither of those helping: go here and download this free music release. I listen to it a lot when trying to unwind.

And lastly, if that doesn’t work, contact me for a session. Sometimes I can help people right over the phone.

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

ALL IS OF THE SOURCE - DIGI-BOOK, By Cordell Klier

[UPDATE: THIS BOOK IS NOW FREE TO EVERYONE – GO GET IT!]

I wrote a book a while back. ..let it set there for about two years before deciding to sell it. I wrote it as if something had escorted me out of the way so it could translate thru me. Got spooked as to how honest I felt writing it. Shocked more that I actually lived so much of it.

It’s entitled, “ALL IS OF THE SOURCE

Maybe you’ll find it interesting.
And if you care to book a session, I give it free to all my clients.

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

“Sometimes things get out of control to get us back in control.”
– Stacy Sabin

My girlfriend eloquently placed these words into my ears about 10 minutes ago. She is belly dancing in Chicago now with world renown belly dancer Rachel Brice. Sounds like she is loving it. Her words…, spoken in the face of possible income loss, are reassuring. And just what I needed to hear. Often she’ll say things like this with astonishing timing. I’m in Minnesota watching the state government being an inch from shutting down.

..politics……

So lets talk about job loss briefly thru a few quotes.

“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome.”
-William James

“People are where they are because that is exactly where they really want to be – whether they will admit that or not.”
-Earl Nightingale

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”
-Dale Carnegie

“Let go, and let God (Source / Tao / The Creator Numero-Uno / Cosmic Consciousness / The Architect of the Great Work….)”
-??? I’m still not sure who said this

….and one more from good ‘ol Earl..

“Success is the progressive realization of worthy ideal.”
-Earl Nightingale

Is there really anything else to say?

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

Audition for your own life. Everybody knows the phrase Carpe Diem. For those that don’t it’s “seize the day”. Yes it’s a cliché, but in my opinion possible erroneously under-valued. It’s one thing to look around your room and get confronted with the pretense of the modern age, wondering how and why all this is necessary… but really, isn’t it? Isn’t all of it there for a purpose?

Who do you know right now that could use a leg up? Who do you know that could use some of your extra pizza? How about that steam-punk kid playing his banjo for a few cents on the side of the highway entrance, hoping to travel back to California. If you’re worried that he is a vegan, I’m pretty sure he’d eat your extra left over pizza. Does a scenario like this sound odd / lame / dumb / worthless? If so, obviously you’ve not been in a place where worry about your next meal is about the only thing filling up your body and mind.

Homelessness in the US is huge. And considering our infrastructure, money or no-money, there is really zero excuse for even the hard-headed, self-compelled wandering teenager, with hopes in dodging a system that may or may not have seemed to oppressed his sensibilities, with a reason to go – or even stay – hungry. Not to sound preachy, but not everyone has had it as awesome as you. But we are all on this ship together. Why not try your hand at auditioning as someone’s super hero for the day?

We may not make the same kind of choices. We may even think he should get what he has coming to him for being bold enough to get out on the streets by choice. Maybe you think it is plain stupid to do so. Really though, if it was you, wouldn’t you want the kindness of strangers on your journey? Self-induced or not?

Sometimes “carpe diem” isn’t about YOU. Sometimes it’s about “them”. The people you disagree with, but you know they are struggling with something your know you can help them with.

Today, challenge yourself with a good deed today. A deed for someone other than yourself. As they say in the self-help field, “gotta give to get”, right? So my thoughts go out to those on “their” journey. As Basil King put it best, “Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid”. Maybe you’ll fail and that kid will be a vegan and scoff at your free meal. But what if he thanks the hell out of ya?

You may or may not get the part of Super Hero today in the eyes of that kid, but sometimes it’s best to give it your best anyway.

Be willing to not get the part, but audition anyway. Ya never know.. he could be “THE CASTING DIRECTOR” of your next life.. For wasn’t it Buddha that pretty much outlined the probability: to respect all things for Tao/God is in all things, even no-thing?

Who could you help out today? What can you spare?

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

Well maybe not entirely. A lot of folks are in what I call the Post-“Secret” era. And I’d say about 3/4 of them are stuck in this, “bring me, bring me, bring me” trance. Restlessly asking for more, More, MORE! .. yet still feeling like it ain’t enough. Nor is it really filling the hard-drive of our souls. The burn out is apparent on a lot of people’s faces. And really it’s to be expected and truth be told – totally A-OK. I mean sure that Sunday tastes awesome, but did ya need the largest size? Are you sure ya need 2 more pairs of kitchen midst? Really dude, how many cars do you really need?

It’s time to snap out of it… at least for a moment. Maybe just for today. Certainly Abundance is the birth-right of all creatures, yet I’d like ya to consider that maybe, just maybe, your gods aren’t the servers at Applebees..?? So why not give’em a well needed lunch break.

Back when you were a kid getting up and running around like an idiot was fun. And you really never needed an excuse or a new toy to do it. You just saw everything as the excuse to act like a goofball and have fun. That is to say “make fun” out of anything and everything. Remember those days? Any corner in your house was a new adventure. The washing machine was the tallest building ever – and you are going to surmount it!

Today (when no one important is looking of course), find the corner in your house that is calling you to act freely, and without restrain to fully express your enjoyment, frustration, need for silence, or.. maybe give your new found expanding awareness a moment to take in the room from a new angle. Who knows what you have forgotten about? A CD you bought last week but never really listened to it. A painting: how the colors are actually more orange from that angle cuz of the cloudy day. Or maybe, that small moment of “new” is just enough time to slow that head chatter down a notch.

One of the things I tell all my clients is “Re-Acquaint Yourself With Your Present View”. Because it’s easy to lose sight of what we have if we aren’t fully grateful thru are use of all that now sits on the shelves of your home. Consider your couch as a shelf. You are sitting on it. What are you doing with your body, mind, heart, soul, skill-sets, ambitions right this very second?

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier

Cordell Klier - Life & Wellness Coach
It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to actualize their dreams into full reality. Yet I know people feel that way all the time. So know that you are not alone.

The first advice I give anyone is, “if you think you can, you will”, yet my only caveat is, “are you willing, as well as set-up, to maintain it long-term”?

Many life coaches, healers, psychologists, counselors, spiritual advisers are wonderful at helping people find and cultivate their potentials, as well as their ambitions. ..Still, have you ever lived your dream but only slightly, or funnier yet, had it only stuck around for about a month, a week, or even a day? If so, I’m certain you are thinking ‘what gives?’, ‘what a crock of..#*$^!’, or ‘why is this failing now?’

If you are like most folks post “The Secret” era, goal setting tends to seem like all the new year resolutions that get ignored once ‘the seemingly real you’ has entered the new year. Aka – Starts out pretty cool, and wow are you initially motivated… but only for about a week or so, then the old inertia-filled patterns come back full-swing.

That’s why I am here, and I most definitely can assist you back on track.

Whether it’s keeping the weight off, keeping the ex gone for good, keeping the business running, or staying amidst what I coined a few years back in my digi-book ALL IS OF THE SOURCE, “your awareness of, your connection to” during times of stress and strife, I can help you manage and organize that handful / head-filled with worry and glut of self-sabotage right out of your life.

I can guide you thru the rough patches with practical advice that is effective. The only thing to keep in mind is that I will challenge your beliefs, I will dig into what I call the “4th layer”, ..which is a layer about 4 layers deep into your thinking, reacting, and expectations in life. I do this in order to uncover your subconscious intentions/motivations to do or not to do the things in life that are either tripping you up, or causing you strain.

In my line of work it’s all about release, freedom, healthy results, then MAINTENANCE!

Ever wonder why so many movies & literature expose God/Tao/Source/Creator-Numero-Uno as a janitor? Ever wondered why that is? It’s because at the end of the night, you have another morning waiting for you that if you haven’t simplified the work ahead of you, or stream-lined your personal status-quotient – you will feel like living the life of your dreams is more like a full-time job.

So if you (like many others) have made the shift, accomplished the goals, but seem to still have issues with staying aboard the “awesome ship”, I encourage you to request a session. And lets see if – together – we can keep ya where you know you are supposed to be.

Namaste / Good Tidings
Cordell Klier