“I WANT TO CHANGE!…blah!.. damn it!” …
..”Okay.. but into what?” I asked.
“Fuckin anything other than this crap!”
“… how about into a rhinoceros?”, I responded respectfully but with a glint of humor in my eye.
She instantly could see how silly a comment like that was without specifics. Being exceptionally smart, she stopped her explosive uproar, composed herself, and muddled thru her tears, “touché, ….you douche-bag”. This, right before we both started laughing uncontrollably. Break-Thru!
“Why in the world did you choose a rhinoceros?”, she snorted thru laughter. “You coulda said something like ‘lawyer’ or something, and I would’ve gotten the point.”
“..eh.. ya needed a good laugh.” “Frankly so did I.”, as I giggled.
Lets take a second to be forth-right in our thinking. Directing the course of one’s life without being specific can just lead you down a path of .. actually, let me back up a moment.
Trajectory is a word rarely used in regards to one’s life and life choices. Knowing where you are going, what to look out for, who’s comin with, why ya doin’, expanding your in-flight knowledge, and how to get there while having fun – that’s the plan ain’t it? And ain’t it always.
So what’s the first step in anything that you need to due correctly? Yep, ya guessed it. Be specific. Draw a map. Why? Cuz navigation and focus is key.
Sure some people may be able to get there on instinct alone, but can you?
I’ve seen people “do” on instinct alone. It takes a long, long time to “do it while having fun”. I’m talking about the merger between the vacation & the vocation.
My friend Marie is a potter. An exceptional one at that. Has a hard time keepign items in her Etsy account cuz of it. I keep telling her to find someone to keep it updated for her cuz she is always busy at the “wheel” makin new stuff all the time. ..No, the quote from before wasn’t Marie. But both have had similar conversations with me about damn near the same reason. Marie gets it. She is smart about it. ..and has faith in her trajectory. Which is why she has success. Sure, even Marie gets challenged, but it’s not by her success. And the woman from before, her struggle is with her day job.
Life without a destination seems to only be for a certain few who can handle it. Generally those who’ve got lots of people’s couches they can crash on. But once they’ve burned thru all the couches at least twice… then what?
..then there is..
Life with a direction.
Life with a reason.
Life, backed by unwavering self-confidence.
Add these three together with a good business model, and you’ve got the start of a great little venture. As Napoleon Hill, Wallace D. Wattles, Dale Carnage, (..the list goes on & on..) have all stated, in all of their literature, for the last hundred years – tested over and over again my millions of people – something around the likes of: You not only ‘can’ get you anywhere you need to go, but I’d say, 90% of the cases in fact “will” get there. No questions asked. Of course these guys all used phrases like “faith”, “burning-desire”, and the likes. But don’t get lost in the semantics: the rule of doing to succeed at just about anything is pretty simple. …But a bit tough to get it all out in one or two sentences.. let alone a paragraph – so bare with me here.
That rule is:
Brainstorm. Think gigantic. Nothing is impossible.
Set a/the/your goal. You can do it, I promise you that you can “IF”!… You link your inspired goal to your “higher self“. This will give you all the energy you need in all situations that may seem challenging during the on-set. If ya don’t, you’ll lose steam really fast and it will soon become a “job” and not a profession. This also helps to keep resistance at bay. And without this you are looking at a non integrated vocation/vacation. Chances are you already have that… eeek!
Meditate on your goal everyday for at least 5 minutes in the morning or just before bed (although 20 minutes is best). Keep something in your pocket at all times that can help remind you that your goal is beside you at all time. Make a business card, draw a picture – anything works. Create visual reminders of the goal and surround yourself with these sources of inspiration. Place them all over your home, car, and/or office. Get silly about it. Get real about it. Whatever or however – just do it. We’ve all heard of vision boards. …there’s a reason why they are so talked about it. They work. Consider making one.
Next, Research till you have found a few people who did it first. Consider taking advice only from those people doing so now, or those that have achieved it within the last ten years. Or if time-tested the same achievement strategies could still apply today. [Relationship advice on the other hand, may or may not be the same 100 years ago - You'll know what's correct for you by how you feel about it while you are researching it. Listen to what your body is telling you by how you feel.] Apply what you’ve learned from them into an action-plan. Make a chart, future-cast into stages, make a benched-mark progress log, write a letter to yourself, …whatever it takes for you to see a map or plan of action, this will keep you on point. What You Track Will Pay You Back. ..You’ll never see a wealthy person with an unkept bank account. Even if your goal is to get laid at the club tonight, get crystal clear by creating action steps. Test your actions steps beginning to see yourself having, doing, acting, smelling, looking, thinking, feeling, (take a breath) and being who you are once that “goal” is reach/obtained/achieved. THINK LIKE AN ATHLETE!! Visualize yourself accomplishing it. Practice by pretending at home. Act like a kid, pretend you are already there. Start to dress like the person you are going to be now with what you have now. Improvise. You did it when you were a kid. You can do it now. If ya gotta do it in secret, do it in secret.
Now, it’s all about persistence and recalibrating the plan. Be stead-fast with persistence, even in the face of scrutiny and opposition(especially then). Take not the advice of those who’ve given up and are “worried for you”. Or even those who are concerned with you “failing” – these people will not have your best interests in mind. And besides failing is bullshit. It doesn’t even exist to begin with. Failing just means you stopped. And guess what? You can start again at any time. Ignore the naysayers like the plague. Even if they are family, best friends, or people who pretend to be your competitors. Keep your two eyes on the prize at all times. Competition is a lie, and ignore all those scarcity arguments. They are the inventions of the fearful.
As it’s been stated, Roadblocks are what you see when you take your eyes off the prize – take this to heart and store it there. This has been said in a ton of different ways by a lot of successful people. Take that little sentence and memorize it. Teach it to your friends. Have them dish it out right back at you when you get discouraged. As long as your goal is aligned with your heart you should have zero reason enough to keep you doing those little things that seem annoying, but are integral to getting you to where you are headed. I.E. – having to retailer your plan. And if you can find someone to hold you accountable to your goal – you’ll be unstoppable, revised plan or not.
Which leads to: finding like minded people. There are a million ways to do this. Do a Google search. Get on Facebook. Craigslist. Go the coffeehouse down the road and put up a flyer looking for these people. Grab a flyer that seems like you. Pick up a paper, hit the want ads, the seeking people section. Heck, try writing to the editor asking them to write an article about it. See who, what pops up.
Trust the world around you, For You Are Not Alone Ever. And there are plenty of people looking for you as well. Be diligent. If you there, They are there too.
Once you have an accountability support structure in place; be that a business partner, lover, friend, or a coach, knowing your goal; acting as if; doing as if; thinking as if.. now its time for the tough part. Nope, it’s not the achievement. I know movies and TV love to make this the point of all their stories, but I can assure you it certainly is not. The tough part is what seems like the easy part, but is actually the hard part. MAINTENANCE.
And with that.. Let’s talk a little about Maintaing the dream…
PT. 2 Coming Soon.
Namaste / Good Tidings